Doulas on The Today Show 0

Doulas are a wonderful addition to the modern, medical birthing environment. They are proven to reduce a number of unnecessary interventions, including cesarean. They offer emotional support and in many instances, doulas will gently remind a woman who is being coerced into unnecessary procedures about her original intentions and birth plan. Doctors (and CNMs) hate this. The following clip is from the Today Show which aired on November 20, 2008 and in which mother and doula's opinions were downplayed while the obstetrician got the lion's share of the interview and the woman basically blamed doulas for less than favorable outcomes which is absolutely and utterly ridiculous. They (the cogs in the medical model) have no one to blame but themselves, their wallets and their watch for less than favorable outcomes.

Psychological Pain of Childbirth 2

Psychological Pain of Childbirth Birth is an extraordinary event for families and for the whole community. We have come a long way, and it is now rare for women to die in childbirth. There are still, however, many unanswered questions. Why is birth still perceived as dangerous, when it is such a natural event and there has never been a safer time in history to give birth? The physical pain of childbirth is well known but the vast majority of women suffer from the rarely talked about psychological pain of childbirth. Were we truly cursed by God in Genesis? These are questions that can become important for a woman, particularly after undergoing a particularly traumatic or surgical childbirth. Birth is a rite of passage into womanhood and if unplanned major assistance is provided it is not uncommon for a woman to feel that she has perhaps failed. Unresolved relationship issues may also surface which can be detrimental to the birthing process while also being distressing. "What happened?" a woman may ask, or even "Am I fit to be a good mother?" My own beliefs regarding child birth have developed from a life long interest that began for me in rural England, as a small child, watching farm animals as well as my own pets give birth. I was likewise drawn to the local women who regularly shared stories, not meant for my young ears. This of course only whet my appetite further! Telling one's story has, in psychology, always been the beginning of understanding and of healing. In my practice, in my research and now on my website I encourage women to share their birth stories. By sharing our words we open new possibilities for the entire community. A growing body of research together with my years of experience, including working with post birth trauma, has led me to predict a swing back towards natural birth, and indeed a new psychological model for birth is now emerging. The emphasis for those wanting a natural birth has been to be physically and mentally prepared. Caregivers often lack a psychological viewpoint and because of this I am often invited and consistently welcomed training and supervising medical staff in understanding the deeper emotional needs of mother and child at this significant transition. Being psychologically prepared for the birth of a child is as important as the physical preparation! Your well-being in both areas requires planning and preparation. This will benefit both you and your child. Hypno birthing, calm birth and an experienced Doula are all beneficial tools to consider for yourself. I will share with you my five golden rules of natural child birth; 1. Birth is a inward experience, such as meditation or prayer. Don't have anyone present while you are birthing that you don't feel totally comfortable ignoring or who is going to distract you. Your partner may be better helping with preparing food for the next few days, answering and making phone calls cleaning house or keeping company with other friends and relatives. Can you meditate comfortably for an hour or more with your partner present without being distracted by their presence or them being hurt by you ignoring them? Even if you don't meditate, try doing something like this with your partner to see if it feels comfortable. This can be a useful guide. Hypnobirthing is becoming very popular now and is very good for preparing both partners for the kind of state that a woman will deliver the most positive outcome for all involved . This can and should be part of your childbirth education or childbirth classes. 2.Adrenaline slows and disrupts (and can even put a brake on) the sequence of natural body chemicals necessary for a smooth delivery and bonding between mother and child. Any issues of fear around the birth (experienced by either partner) needs to be addressed well before time. The doctor, midwife or support person that you choose should be trained to help keep you calm and focused "inward" if you should be-come agitated or afraid. 3. Practice positions for first and second stage labor that you feel comfortable meditating or relaxing in. In the bath, in Open Lotus position, sitting up in a chair etc. Follow your bodies signals about what is comfortable. Feeling totally relaxed and no pressure on you to perform or give attention to others is powerful pain relief. Accept totally that your body knows what is happening and knows what to do. Birth is a neurochemical process, trust your body and let the process unfold. 4. Have a good relationship with your doctor or midwife who will be present at the birth. Make sure that they are aware of your intended approach. Not all caregivers have had training in the positive psychology of birth, these ideas may be new to them and you may need to take some time choosing the right support. This is vital to you feeling safe and secure. 5. Resolve emotional issues with yourself and your partner before the birth. Do you long for more attention from your partner? The birth process is not a good time to look for this. Do you feel resentment or fear about your partner controlling or possibly abandoning you? These issues can arise during birth bringing unwanted adrenaline into the equation. If unresolved they can get worse after the baby is born rather than better. There is wonderful help available for these and other unresolved emotional issues and needs. Start preparing psychologically for the best birth experience for yourself as soon as you plan to become or become pregnant. For those who have suffered an invasive or traumatic birth in the past, understanding what happened and how it might have been different can be very healing. For Childbirth education and childbirth classes visit for more information. For those with unresolved emotional issues from a past traumatic birth experience help is available and will make you a stronger and more confident woman and mother. Happy new beginnings. Susan

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Susan's five golden rules of birth can all be addressed with an unassisted childbirth.

1. Birth becomes an inward experience when you trust the process and allow your primal self to do what it already knows how to do. 2. Humiliating, painful and invasive procedures and interventions done by doctors and midwives is one of the primary causes of adrenaline surges during childbirth as a woman's fight or flight response is engaged. This can be avoided by avoiding the cause of the "attack" and only seeking medical attention if there is a problem. 3.Doctors and some midwives will force you into unnatural and damaging birthing positions particularly during the actual delivery. You need to allow your instincts and your body to naturally choose the best positions to labor and deliver in. The easiest way to ensure an optimal birthing position is to avoid birth attendants. 4. You will not have to try to educate or enlist the support of a doctor or midwife who are used to doing things in a way which benefits them and their schedule if you do not use a doctor or midwife. 5. An unassisted birth requires a greater amount of preparation and responsibility and this includes preparing mentally, physically, psychologically and naturally engaging the full support of your partner. By: Susan Dalby About the author: Birthing options/Birth classes/Parenting classes/Hypnobirthing/Post Natal Depression/Creating a Birth Plan/Positive psychology/Birth related PTSD (post-traumatic stress -disorder) and it's effect on relationships and sex/Individual, couples and group counselling. Image Source:

Benefits of Using a Doula for Childbirth 0

During a prenatal visit with Ann and Roger, a first-time mom and dad, the pediatrician asked about their childbirth education experiences. Ann said the classes were like a lecture, and there was little time to get questions answered. "As we went through the meetings and learned about things that might happen, we began to feel really nervous. The educator said it was best for the baby if the mother received no medication, so she suggested natural childbirth. I'm willing to try going without pain medication, but Roger doesn't want to see me in pain. Could I ask your opinion about a doula for childbirth?" Dr Wagner followed the mother's question with her own: "That sounds like an interesting idea. Tell me what you know about doulas." Ann replied, "Not much. I've only heard the name. You know, we recently moved here." Dr Wagner responded, "Well, Roger, let me tell you something that I have found exciting. In the last year, four fathers have come for their baby's first visit and have told me how great it was to have a doula. It was the third baby for one of them. He couldn't wait to tell me what a rewarding experience it was for him and his wife compared with their earlier experiences. I thought that there must be one fabulous woman in our community working as a doula, but all the fathers had a different doula! The fathers said that the doula assured them that she would be with the couple through the whole labor and the first 2 hours after delivery and that the fathers could leave at any time if tired or hungry. The doulas showed the fathers what they could do to help the mother." Roger interrupted, "That sounds great, but Ann and I thought we could manage by ourselves. I'm not sure about having a stranger in the room with us." Dr Wagner replied, "These four men and their wives met with the birth doula in their homes 1 or 2 times in the month before labor began. As a result, they knew her and liked her and then were relieved to see her when they went to the hospital. Let me be frank with you. There is a lot that goes on in a modern maternity hospital that will be new to you. There are strange smells and sounds, nurses and physicians rushing about, a lot of unfamiliar hospital lingo. There is a nationwide nursing shortage, and due to managed care most hospitals have found it necessary to cut costs drastically. Therefore, each nurse has to care for more than 1 patient at the same time. Obstetric care in the United States has become more intensive. From what I have learned from my patients about their labor and delivery experiences, it seems to me that every laboring woman needs a doula. And I say that knowing that there are many more important reasons for having continuous doula support. I am going to do some research about the doula, and then I will get back to you with what I learn." Six weeks later when the parents brought their new daughter for her first office visit, Dr Wagner was surprised at the change in their confidence and enthusiasm. Ann said, "We can't thank you enough for finding a doula for us and telling us the good effect she would have. From the time of our first meeting with our doula, Maria, I stopped feeling so nervous. She told Roger and me she would meet us when we came to the hospital in labor and would be with us until 2 hours after delivery. Maria wanted to make sure that I had the baby skin to skin on my chest right after birth and let the baby self-attach to my breast. And she did stay the whole 9 hours of labor plus the 2 hours postpartum! Maria was so strong that I could really relax. I could never have gone through that labor without her. I mean it." Roger interrupted, "She was terrific! She stayed the whole time and showed me what to do to help Ann. I think she helped me even more than she did Ann." If you have decided against homebirth for some reason but still want to try to have a "natural" birth in a hospital then GET A DOULA. I just cant stress this enough. Just do it. They are proven to decrease dangerous and unnecessary interventions. You will find that a doula is much more supporting, like a friend, than your OB or midwife is and I have never heard of anyone regretting hiring a doula. (And plenty of women regret hiring their OB or midwife). Speaking from personal experience, my childbirth was a living nightmare but I believe it would have been nothing short of living hell if my doula had not been there for me. I am still very grateful for her presence. Obviously in the future I will only choose unassisted childbirth unless I have a medical reason to deliver in a hospital but for those of you that aren't sold on UC, then I repeat, GET A DOULA. Author: Martin T. Stein, MD About the author: For more information on a birth doula visit Image Source:

Pregnancy and Birth for First Time Mothers 3

Pregnancy and Birth for First Time Mothers Pregnancy and Birth for First Time Mothers If you are pregnant for the first time, the idea of childbirth can be frightening and a bit overwhelming. Typically, a pregnancy takes anywhere from 38 to 42 weeks. Though many first-time mothers indicated that their babies were delivered past their due date, it is always best to be ready and prepared for what is to come during childbirth. With the advent of modern science and technology in childbirth and childcare, many modern women are afforded more advantages with regards to information about childbirth than their older counterparts had, and many of these women take advantage of these opportunities. Instead of spending 38 to 42 weeks getting all worked up about childbirth, take the opportunity to learn and educate yourself on the beautiful process of birth as well as how to care for your newborn. Many hospitals and communities offer prenatal classes to prepare you for childbirth during the third trimester. Not only that, libraries as well as the Internet, offer a wealth of information on matters concerning childbirth and child care. Remember though, even with all the preparation every woman's childbirth is different and unique. It is important to remember that Calm Preparation for Childbirth can equip you with knowledge and this will make you well informed. Knowing that millions of women have been successfully giving birth since the dawn of time offers little consolation to most women. This is because the fear of the unknown is terrifying. Ample knowledge can provide a small sense of control over the whole situation. Now women are actively involved in their birthing plans and inform their doctor or midwife how they would like the childbirth to be carried out if all is well with the baby. Although complications can limit your childbirth choices, there are various options that you can choose from for your birth plan. To prepare for childbirth you can opt to take up childbirth classes, hire a doula or labour coach, and read up on the subject. Even though the idea of childbirth and labor can be scary for a first-time mother, in the end it will all be worth it. Once the baby is placed in the mother's arm, all the pain and discomfort will become nothing but a vague memory. By learning and understanding the labor and delivery process, you can help prepare yourself for the childbirth. There are many women who claimed that attending Lamaze classes eased their mind as they know what to expect. Having a labor coach, be it your spouse, a partner, your best friend or even a doula can greatly help you throughout the whole process. More and more women are choosing Unassisted Childbirth and there are others out there who choose a waterbirth or assisted home birth. The thing that ties them all together is the fact that each labour and delivery experience will be different for all women. While you may have had a rough idea as to the type of experiences you would likely have during the birth of your children, take note that there are many other issues and factors that could have an effect on that idea. Remember that the most important thing about all of this is the end result, having a beautiful healthy baby which will make it all worthwhile. Author: Juzaily Ramli About the author: Juzaily Ramli is the owner of Pregnancy Website , Pregnancy Signs and Pregnancy Stages Find out why it is so important to be prepared for your pregnancy. Image source: